After having to leave Sweden because my second husband had physically attacked me, breaking my nose, and strangling me to the point I passed out. I knew I had to do leave him.
This was not the first time he had abused me or the first abusive relationship I had been in, and sadly not the last. I decided to volunteer to take “Domestic violence” training through the YWCA in San Diego.
It was a real eye opener to say the least, how I got through the classes, I am not sure. It was extremely difficult for me, I sat there crying, while feeling my heart break even more. The stories and the psychology behind the behavior and patterns were so closely related to my experiences. I made it through the six weeks of training, by the grace of GOD.
One of the many things I learned, that hit home for me, was when they told us that if a person strangles you, they will eventually kill you! I was horrified, knowing that my ex-husband who I loved and had moved across the world to be with, had done this to me. Again, he was not the first or the last! My own Brother had strangled me back in the 80’s, I was frightened as a young teenager. Our cousin stood there in shock not able to move. He eventually let me go but I would never forget this, because of the fear I felt and the overwhelming anger and hatred I felt coming from him.
I am happy to report, that I am no longer in an abusive relationship, through many years of therapy and learning to love and protect myself, those days are behind me. My goal is to help other women find their inner strength to walk away from anyone or anything that threatens their well being.
Thankful, Grateful & Blessed!
Domestic Violence Awareness Month