Another excerpt from “Repetition”

Book of repitition


According to Kabbalah, the soul doesn’t inhabit the body permanently while the fetus is in the womb, so Kabbalists don’t consider aborting the fetus to save the mother to be abhorrent. The souls that intends to incarnate in the body of the baby is aware of the mother’s choices, and if she decides to terminate the pregnancy, it accepts her decision without anger or resentment. It feels somewhat sad that its contract with the mother has been canceled, but it knows that there will e other opportunities for being born into human life.

If a mother gives the baby up for adoption, the infant will develop very strong issues of abandonment and rejection. But while the birth mother may feel tremendous guilt over her decision, the soul of the baby benefits from the choice she has made because it has a chance to work through its issues. It has unconsciously chosen to be born to this mother, at this time and place. The soul is aware that it will be given up for adoption and will suffer rejection and abandonment as a result, but it also knows that this is an opportunity for it to heal its abandonment issues by re-experiencing the trauma of rejection.

A baby has no sense of awareness of where it stops and “Mother” begins. While in the womb, it ate whatever she ate, felt whatever she felt, and sensed her thoughts. There’s no sense of separation, even after the umbilical cord is cut. The newborn baby doesn’t perceive that it’s a being apart from its mother. Its feeling is: Everything is me, me, me. The world is me. My Mother is me. I am my mother. The sense of separation doesn’t begin until a baby starts to crawl, and it peaks again when it starts walking, because the baby recognizes, If I can propel myself away from mother, that means she can propel herself away from me... and that’s a very frightening thought.

If the mother terribly mourns the loss of her baby because she gave the infant up, that child will experience sadness throughout life yet have no idea that this melancholy stems from the mother’s grief. The fact that there’s a physical distance between mother and child is irrelevant. All of us are connected at an unconscious level. The adopted baby feels this sadness across time and across continents.

The adoptive parent may be very loving, supportive and nurturing,  but the blueprint of rejection has already been stamped in the brain of the child. If the source of these very deep-rooted feelings, which most adoptees are unaware of aren’t addressed, they may never get resolved. Although many children feel happy with their adoptive parents and have no interest in meeting their birth mother or father or exploring the circumstances of their adoption, it’s always important that they address this early, deep wounding and work on healing it. Otherwise, they’ll unconsciously choose to repeat the trauma of abandonment and rejection again and again in this lifetime and future ones.



If you haven’t r4ead this book, I highly recommend you do!

♓️Thankful, Grateful & Blessed! 

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