I was reading this article by Melanie Tovars and came across these sentences that read so very true to me and my situation with my Mom, Sister and Brother:
Narcissists are NASTY people.
Yes, absolutely they can be delightful …
But, when they lash out … all bets are off.
No matter what you are doing they find fault; the ways to criticize you, put you down, bring up your most painful wound and throw it in your face, go over again what you seemingly did to them that can never be forgiven … and the list goes on and on.
All of which makes you doubt yourself and seriously question your own integrity, intentions, and identity.
And … if the narcissist in your life isn’t critical verbally, there are things they do that still hurt you immensely, leaving you feeling devalued, insignificant and not worthy of their care or attention.
These three sentences hit me like a ton of bricks, saying what I have lived and especially for the last decade or so.