What Is Emotional Invalidation?

Emotional abuse through invalidation!


Emotional invalidation occurs when you discount someone’s feelings, implying that, for them to be saying or doing something, they must be either crazy, stupid, or some combination of the two. This can happen in a quick, almost casual manner (“That’s ridiculous.”), or it can even be done passive-aggressively, telling a person how they should react before you even speak (“Don’t freak out, but I have to tell you something..” or “what is wrong with you?”). In the worst-case scenarios, the invalidation can devolve into situations that can be humiliating and degrading (“Don’t listen to him, he doesn’t know what he’s talking about.” or “You must be crazy!”).

People do this to me frequently, I think part of the problem is that those people aren’t mindful of themselves, much less of others. I try to respond by letting them know they are invalidating my feelings, this is something that is hard for me to do, again because usually the same person will respond again by invalidating my feelings, again!  I don’t believe they care, but I have to speak my truth because I care. Reminding myself that I am strong enough to stand up for myself.

Thankful, Grateful & Blessed! 


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