Almost everyone struggles with thoughts of self-doubt at some point in their lives, which often stem from untruths we learned about ourselves or ideas we were taught in adolescence. Those thoughts can occur at the most inopportune times, plaguing us right when we need to make an important decision or take some form of action. What if I take the job and it doesn’t work out, what if I can’t do this, what if I say the wrong thing, what if I don’t finish in time?
While these thoughts can be common, too many of them are debilitating and will keep you stuck in a pattern of indecision that could eventually take control of your entire life. Luckily, there are many simple, daily actions we can take to help stop self-doubt in its tracks and end the “what if” cycle.
2) Don’t compare yourself to others: life is not a competition and we’re all on our own paths. Instead of wasting your time and energy keeping score of what everyone else is doing, focus on yourself and your own dreams. Express happiness for those who are doing well, sympathy for those who aren’t, and then concentrate on where you’re at and what you want to achieve.
3) Count your blessings: keep a gratitude journal and write in it often. At the end of each day, write down 10 things in your life that make you feel blessed. Even if you’re having a rough day and a hard time coming up with anything, simply write down that you’re blessed for the roof over your head or the yummy soup you ate for lunch – every day you’re alive is a reason to feel grateful.
4) Take a look at your tribe: are they dreamers, doers, go-getters? Or do they tend to blame others for their problems? Do they emanate who you want to be? Are you rejuvenated after hanging out with them or exhausted? It’s been said that you’re the medium of the people you hang out with, so choose your friends wisely – surround yourself not only with people who you admire, but also those who believe in you, offer encouragement, and support your dreams.
5) Make up your own mind: asking for the advice and input of others can be beneficial in certain circumstances, but if you find yourself doing it all of the time then essentially what you’re doing is telling yourself you’re not capable of making your own decisions. If you want to bounce ideas off of your coworkers and friends every now and again when needed, that’s fine, but make sure most of the choices you’re making come from your own decisions.