Staying in touch doesn’t have to be hard, expensive, or time consuming.
I thought I’d share some tips for being a better long distance friend in hopes that some of my long lost pals read this.
1. Take advantage of social media. I understand that not everyone is on social media, but if anything, it’s really a great tool for staying in touch across the distance, political posts and prom pictures aside. I actually have friends who simply use the private message function of social media without using the feed.
2. Handwritten notes are back in vogue. I’m a sucker for pretty note cards. Thanks to my computer, I find it humbling and therapeutic to write personal notes to my friends.
3. Send wacky holiday cards. Halloween, etc.
4. If you can break up by text, certainly you can make up by text. And unlike an email or handwritten note, brevity is expected. Just a simple “Hey!” or even an emoji will do. At least I know we’re still friends and you’re still thinking of me.
5. Call spontaneously. Resist that urge to text first and just make the call.
As I get older and ponder what others will say about me at my funeral or even if I am missed or thought of, ever. I think about friends who’ve had an impact on my life. I’ve learned that swallowing my pride and being the one to make the effort is worth it in the long run. Like any other relationship, it takes work. So, you know who you are. Call me!
Unfortunately, I can say that after making many efforts, they are rarely reciprocated, leaving me with little to work with, and a blaring sign that I may not be that important to them after all .