Was 2019 a difficult year for you? Did you have your share of heartache and difficulty you’d like to leave behind? If you’re looking for a top-notch, extremely rewarding new vibe for 2020 and the rest of decade, perhaps you’ll consider these 10 ways to get started:
1. Wear your heart on your sleeve.
According to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, “grateful people are rated by others as more helpful, outgoing, optimistic and trustworthy.” In short, wearing your heart on your sleeve by expressing appreciation can help you build satisfying relationships and make bad memories feel remote and distant this new year.
2. Feel secure in your relationship style.
In their book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – And Keep – Love, Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller describe attachment styles in relationships, including secure, anxious and avoidant-types. Those with secure attachment expect love and care from others, often engaging in effective communication with spouses and other connections. Start the New Year feeling secure in your relationship style by learning to improve your communication skills.
3. Empower others (but first start with yourself).
When we are at our strongest, we find the courage to empower, listen, and care for others. Melinda Gates writes in her latest book, The Moment of Lift, that “if I had not been surrounded by people who lifted me up, I might have taken her [a counselor’s] advice and sold myself short…” Gates goes on to say, “That wasn’t my power; it was the power of the people who had shown me my gifts and wanted me to flourish…” Gates concludes by claiming, “This is what happens when you offer girls love, not hate…they gain their voice.”
If we are at our strongest, or on the path to becoming so, then we must find ways to see the best in others and tell them so.
4. Stay grounded, yet confident.
Did you have difficulty with self-confidence or self-esteem in 2019? Don’t worry, everyone has sailed on that boat with you. Your response, in turn, defines you. Not the feeling. When managing difficult internal emotions, try to discover your inner voice telling you that this it is temporary. Then you can move onward. Do the things you love to do, find your purpose, and soon your inner confidence will surge.
5. Move forward past rejection.
We’ve all had our share of rejection. However, that doesn’t mean that you haven’t shared in the success. Holding onto optimism and hope is key to moving beyond the rejection. This New Year, keep the hope and the optimism alive and well. You deserve it for yourself to do that.
6. Stay lit with love.
“Love is the most powerful and underused force for change in the world,” writes Melinda Gates in her book, The Moment of Lift. Be a pioneer of love and kindness this New Year. Stay lit with love.
7. In times of sadness and setback, let yourself feel, even if you have to cry or be angry. Then gather yourself, and plan onward.
Part of your emotional compass might tell you it’s wrong to cry or wrestle with anger or frustration. It’s all part of the package, though, despite the feeling that you want it to be completely gone. It’s okay to have down moments. Remember to let yourself feel in times of sadness and setback. Soon, collect yourself, regain your composure, and forge ambitiously ahead.
8. Fully celebrate success.
When you reach success, don’t be shy to celebrate. These moments make the journey ever so joyful.
9. Put your fate and faith into a higher source.
If 2019 has been especially difficult, remember that your journey has good times ahead. Leave your fate and faith in the hands of a higher source, and try to make light of your difficulties by focusing and appreciating the positive. Try expressing your appreciation on apps like Gratitude Circle.
10. Consider your slate clean. That is in terms of plans. If you need to, make a fresh start towards goals you’ve set for yourself.
Whether it is tackling climate change, reaching gender equality in schools and at work, or ending global hunger and poverty, all our goals however small or large matter, in terms of improving the status quo. Try and see the New Year — and decade — as a fresh start towards achieving your most important goals.
Now that you’ve gotten some ways to put tears and negativity behind you, make your first steps!! Remember, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”