By Ellen Baker
1) Decide what you really want for your life
Asking this question is the first, all-important step. If you’re not sure of the answer, get out a blank sheet of paper and write, “What do I really want?” Then, take a deep breath. Continue to breathe deeply, centering your attention in your body, for as long as you need for your mind to calm and your thoughts to fall away. Then, let your pen simply write your answer from this deeper place of feeling and knowing. Don’t let the thoughts or judgments that are sure to pop up sway you. Just keep writing what your intuition tells you.
2) From these notes, craft a statement that will be your guiding light, your North Star
Use these techniques to make your statement super-powerful:
- Make your intention time-based. For example, “By December 2021…”
- Write it in the present tense, as if it’s already happened. “By December 2021, I am…”
- Make the result you want something that you can cause to happen, something that has measurable results. Say you want to grow your business, but you don’t feel confident that you can in the current economy. Rather than writing “By December 2021, I am confident in the economy,” write, “By December 2021, I have grown my business by 50%.” To make this happen, you’ll need to get creative and figure out how to grow your business in current conditions, which makes it a far more effective – and exciting – intention.
- Try to keep your statement short enough for you to remember – but include all the areas of your life that you want to grow. “By December 2021, I have grown my business by 50% and am happily living with the partner of my dreams.”
- Don’t worry about whether your brain believes your intention to be realistic. This is about pushing the limits of your imagination and making your dreams come true. Acknowledge any fears, hurts, beliefs or old stories that might try to hold you back – then shoot for the stars anyway.
3) Keep your intention foremost in your mind and take action
I encourage my clients to revisit their intention daily and ask, “What’s one step I can take today to get me closer to this future?” In the Calling in “The One” coaching method that I practice, this is called “living from the future backward.” If you desire to be married, it’s time to let go of that person who won’t commit. If you want a better job, it’s time to send out resumes. If you want to start a business, it’s time to make a plan and take your first action steps.
4) Tell the people in your life what you’re standing to create. Let them help you
Be open to the magic of how things unfold. Say yes to opportunities that are put before you, even if they scare you. Does a friend want to set you up on a blind date? Say yes! Are you invited to join an online book club that you might not have had interest in before? Say yes! You never know how you might meet the people who’ll help make your vision come to life.
5) Don’t let perceived setbacks along your journey discourage you
Keep revisiting your intention, knowing that this is the miracle you’re standing to create. If you find yourself being held back by old fears or stories, do the work to dismantle or debunk them, whether through coaching, therapy, journaling – whatever works for you. Your perseverance will show the universe that you’re not going to take no for an answer, and you’re not messing around.
6) Remember, your bravery and hard work is going to make your life a lot better, easier and more fun
With a clear intention about the future you envision, you’ll find making decisions easy. All you’ll need to do is ask yourself if a given choice will take you closer to or farther from that future. The best part: You’ll begin to realize that you have the power to co-create the life you desire. And whatever happens along your journey, one thing is certain: You’ll begin to create a life that lights you up, makes you excited, makes you fulfilled, and has you living into your life’s purpose and mission in a centered, empowered way