How To Discover Your Dharma In This Time Of Crisis By Olivia Ryan

“From the beginning, I had a sense of destiny, as though my life was assigned to me by fate and had to be fulfilled. This gave me an inner security, and, though I could never prove it to myself, it proved itself to me. I did not have the certainty, it had me. “ – Carl Jung

Many of us have become aware that our current reality in the time of this virus outbreak, isolation and also, our climate crisis is the universe and earth-shaking us up in order for us to move into divine alignment. We know that we collectively need to make the move away from capitalism and our greed of taking more than we need from the earth, from our bodies and each other. We understand that our current reality is a reflection of the way we have been collectively living. We have seen this shared and written about beautifully by many wonderful writers, teachers, creatives, etc.

The beauty of our current reality is that it highlights our oneness. We can no longer separate our pain from another. This may be something that many of us in this community may already know, but it makes it so much more real. We are learning the importance of working in alignment with the Earth and of being of service to ourselves, the collective & the earth.

But… how can we make this change?

I believe we have all incarnated in this time for a reason.

This ‘reason’ is our dharma. The word Dharma has many translations & meanings some of which include “way of righteousness” or “that which contains or upholds the cosmos”. It is a spiritual principle that sees everything as having a purpose in life everything from animals to humans. The thread that connects us with the divine and our intuition. The sooner we connect to understanding our dharma the sooner we can move towards alignment and fulfillment, which normally coincides with living in harmony with the earth and others. Our society is upheld by the dharma performed (or not performed) by each one of us.

Basically, the more of us living our divine path or dharma the greater the change for the collective.

Why connect with your Dharma?

This is your divine purpose, when you connect with it, it is all-consuming – in the best kind of way! It lights you up in ways you could not imagine, it is like an endless thirst for knowledge or a deep connection that brings you on an endless adventure, something that gets your attention and keeps you coming back for more again and again. This passion never runs out as it is in alignment with your soul’s calling and being poured to you from source.

Living your dharma brings meaning, abundance & fulfillment to your life. Everything falls into place. It becomes your most important relationship; of you & your Dharma because you know it is what you are here to do so you do everything you can to fulfill it! It makes you feel more whole as a person, it becomes a way of sacred living, an anchor to guide you.

Now, I know that knowing all of this is great but also extremely challenging, especially in these times and if you are not quite on the path to your dharma just yet. So, I will say first and foremost take care of yourself in this time. Do not rush or put pressure on yourself. Make sure that you are embodying everything that you may feel the call to preach or teach! Do all of your self-care rituals you would recommend to another; basically make yourself your first client. I say this because I have made these mistakes myself, pushed too much and ended up not taking care of myself.

When we embody what we want to share it all flows so. Much. Easier. I promise!

Taking care of you uplifts the collective’s vibration and you can then be of service to others.

8 Ways Angels Communicate With Humans By Emily Heron

1. Repeating numbers

If you see repeating number sequences, it means that the angels are with you. You can look up what different angel numbers mean. You might see 444 or 666. They all have different meanings. 444 means you are on the right path whereas 666 means you are too focused on the physical world and that you need to find a balance with spirituality and physicality. If you look online you can see all sorts of meanings behind different angel number sequences.

2. Experiencing synchronicities

When you are tapped into the flow of life, which is the spiritual realm within which angels reside, you start to see the magic, beauty, and synchronistic connections in terms of how life flows. It is almost as if you are living in a different dimension. You will begin to experience interesting coincidences, which are known as synchronicities, like meeting people who will help you along your journey and being guided to people, places, and things that can help you move forward.

3. Intuitive guidance

This goes hand in hand with number 2. You will be guided intuitively to certain places or people without really knowing or understanding why, you will just feel compelled to go there. You might meet teachers in these places or just be guided to fun experiences because the angels want you to experience joy.

4. Leaving you a feather

Angels love to leave you natural elements, particularly feathers. It is how they communicate with humans, due to the high energetic vibration of these items. A particularly compelling symbol that an angel is with you is when you see a white feather.

5. Leaving you coins

Angels also like to leave coins, particularly pennies. Copper, which is partially what pennies are made of, carries a high vibrational resonance and it is also a powerful healing metal.

6. Spirit animals

Angels will often communicate with you by sending you animals. Perhaps there is a certain animal that you and your angel shared and you will know to think of them when you see it, but angels can communicate by sending you significant animals in general. You can look up the meanings of spirit animals and their various associations online.

7. Dreams and random memories

Angels love to communicate with you in the dream state. It is the state during which the veil between the spiritual and the physical is very thin. Your angels might send you a message during a dream, or they might even stop in for a visit. They also might send a random memory into your brain to help you remember them if the angel in question is a dead loved one that you were close to.

8. Through other people

Angels truly can communicate through people, particularly through children, but also through psychic mediums. Psychic mediums are people who have developed their intuition and have cleared their own energy channels so that they can receive messages from the angelic realms. Human beings are capable of having very mystical experiences when we become open to it. It can be scary to receive communication from them but know that they aren’t trying to scare you. They want to comfort you. If it becomes too scary you can tell them, and they will eventually cease communication.

Funk

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I have stayed away from being in a relationship.

Yesterday, I was in a heavy mood, at work I could not get over the funk I felt. I didn’t feel like socializing, or engaging with anyone.

I had already agreed to see the man I have been dating, after work. I was looking forward to seeing him and spend time together.

After a couple of hours, I began to ask questions about his past, that quite honestly I didn’t want the answers to, but I continued to push for answers he would not give me. This alone threw me thru a loop. I felt my walls rush up, while my mind starting to fragment and detach.

His reaction, was to leave. He did not contact me until the next day, asking if I was still “pissed”!

What I was feeling, was not pissed but hurt and abandoned. I had a really hard time, trying to figure out how I felt and how I could express it.

Feeling rejected is not a positive or good feeling and neither is feeling abandoned.

I am listening to the book “Childhood disrupted” as I write this, it brings tears to my eyes, because I realize all these feelings, and lack of emotional stability is a result of all the abuse I endured as a child and into adulthood.

Eventually we spoke, after talking with my BFF, a couple of glasses of wine and crying it out. It took quite awhile to get passed the hurt feelings on both sides, but we managed to.

I am working on loving the little girl inside me, that is so hurt, damaged but mostly frightened. The shame this little girl carries through life with her is palpable.

I am a work in progress, it is painful in so many ways. I will not give up on healing! .

Thankful, Grateful & Blessed! 

 

April Fools’ Day 2020

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This year I don’t believe April Fools’ Day will have any pranks! The mood around the world is too heavy!

As for me, this day 20 years ago, my marriage to my second husband came to an end, once we started fighting and he ended up breaking my nose, which wasn’t the worst part of the evening, that came right afterwards when he decided to choke me until I passed out, he then kicked me fracturing my rib to make me come to.

Needless to say, this day is only a reminder of a truly horrible night.

Thankful, Grateful & Blessed! 

Attention: Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

Your Atomic Power
Your attention equates to atomic power so be very careful where you place it.  Energy flows where attention goes, and so how about giving your attention to making a list of what you want to be, do, or have in the next twelve months? For a start it’s going to make you feel really good and put you on a higher frequency. But in addition to that, there’s nothing better than giving your attention to what you want because that is what you will get!  Yes, Yes, Yes!
May Perfect Health Be With You,
Rhonda Byrne
The Secret

Buddhism And Overcoming The Fear Of Death By Matt Caron

When Buddha was on his death bed he noticed his young disciple Anan was weeping.
‘Why are you weeping, Anan?’ he asked.
‘Because the light of the world is about to be extinguished and we will be in darkness.’
The Buddha summoned up all his remaining energy and spoke what were to be his final words on earth:
‘Anan, Anan, be a light unto yourself.’

Death is a natural part of life- something we must all face. Of course, this doesn’t make it easier. But, if we don’t learn to face our fear and conquer it, we are destined to let it hang over our heads, showing up when we least expect it.

And since death will follow us wherever we go, isn’t it better to meet our fears now rather than later?

Thich Nhat Hanh has an amazing visualization in this video that breaks down the question of death in very simplistic terms:

Imagine a white puffy cloud in the sky. Later on, when it starts to rain, you don’t necessarily see the same cloud. It’s not there. But the real truth is that the cloud is in the rain. It’s impossible for a cloud to die. It can become rain, snow, ice, or a multitude of forms…but a cloud cannot be nothing.

This is analogous to death; when we die, we are simply shifting states of being. It doesn’t necessarily mean that everything ends…it just means there is a new reality to partake in.

There is a continuation for everything. 

When you can remove the notion that there is such a thing as the “end” of life or anything else in the world, then you will understand what it means to accept death and move beyond the fear of it.

Life is an up and down roller coaster…it’s up to us to find stability among the craziness.

9 ADHD Myths and Fallacies That Perpetuate Stigma

Block letters spelling out ADHD myths vs. reality

Despite groundbreaking research and clear neurological findings, people continue to harbor many inaccurate beliefs — and promote some downright myths — about ADHD, which only perpetuate misunderstanding, stigma, and shame. Learn the scientific truth about attention deficit hyperactivity disorder here.

Myth #1: ADHD isn’t a real medical disorder.
Myth #2: ADHD is a modern farce created by drug companies
Myth #3: ADHD is the result of bad parenting.
Myth #4: ADHD affects only boys.
Myth #5: A kid who can play video games for hours couldn’t possibly have ADHD.
Myth #6: Children with ADHD eventually outgrow their condition.
Myth #7: Children who take ADHD medication are more likely to abuse drugs.
Myth #8: Special accommodations for ADHD are an unfair advantage.
Myth #9: People who have ADHD are stupid or lazy.

ADHD Myth #1: ADHD isn’t a real medical disorder.

ADHD has been recognized as a legitimate diagnosis by major medical, psychological, and educational organizations, including the National Institutes of Health and the U.S. Department of Education. The American Psychiatric Association recognizes ADHD as a medical disorder in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders — the official mental health “bible” used by psychologists and psychiatrists.

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (formerly known as just attention deficit disorder) is biologically based. Research shows that it’s a result of an imbalance of chemical messengers, or neurotransmitters, within the brain. Its primary symptoms are inattention, impulsiveness, and, sometimes, hyperactivity.

However, like other psychiatric conditions, ADHD lacks biological validity. This means that experts still don’t understand the underlying biological causes, or the exact pathology, of ADHD. In most areas of medicine, the underlying pathologies of disorders are very well defined. Psychiatry, however, is an exception in this regard.

ADHD also lacks objective diagnostic tests that can confirm whether a person has this disorder. In its place, doctors use symptom evaluations and other measures to determine ADHD symptomology.

Though scientists are working hard to find biological validity and objective diagnostic tests, there are other ways to feel confident in an ADHD diagnosis in the meantime. The first way is through something scientists call reliability. This refers to the ability for two different clinicians to evaluate the same child and independently come to the same diagnosis.

ADHD is a very reliable diagnosis. As a matter of fact, it is one of the most reliable diagnoses in all of psychiatry, and in particular, child psychiatry. The reliability of diagnosing ADHD is on par with the reliability of diagnosing pneumonia with a chest X-ray (an example of an objective diagnostic test). This is quite impressive. (DSM Field Trials)

ADHD Myth #2: ADHD is a modern farce created by drug companies

ADHD is neither a modern phenomenon nor a purely American or Western one. It was not dreamed up in response to pressure from the pharmaceutical industry or in response to modern academic pressures and the drive to succeed in school.

Now, those are important concerns and things that could be potentially contributing to an over diagnosis of ADHD. But ADHD is not entirely explainable through those phenomena.

If you go back a century in medical literature, you’ll see descriptions of children who look very much like children with ADHD. A century ago, that specific diagnosis didn’t exist, but physicians described children that were hyperactive, impulsive, inattentive, all the things that we would put together to make an ADHD diagnosis today. Some of the earliest reports date back all the way to the 1700s.

In the 1800s, the German physician Heinrich Hoffman wrote poems and drew illustrations to describe the children he saw in practice. One great example is Fidgety Phil, who he describes as, “Let me see if Philip can be a little gentleman. Let me see if he is able to sit still for once at the table. But Fidgety Phil won’t sit still. He wriggles, he giggles, and then I declare, swings backwards, and forwards and tilts up his chair.”

Here, Dr. Hoffman clearly is describing, is a hyperactive, impulsive child — the same type of clinical presentation that today we would call ADHD. He also describes Johnny Look-in-the-Air, a boy whose head is always in the clouds and wandering about.

ADHD is not purely a Western phenomenon or even an American phenomenon. We know this from epidemiologic studies of the prevalence of ADHD wherein researchers go out into communities around the world assessing a wide number of children and determining the rates of ADHD. This has been done in the African continent, in South America, in Asia, in North America, and in Europe. And it shows us that ADHD is, indeed, found worldwide.

What’s more, the rates of ADHD around the world are fairly consistent at between 5% and 6% of each population. If ADHD were purely a Western phenomenon, we would see the rates very high in North America and Europe and very low in all other continents. That’s not what the data are showing us.

ADHD Myth #3: ADHD is the result of bad parenting.

The problem is rooted in brain chemistry, not discipline. When a child with ADHD blurts things out or gets out of his seat in class, it’s not because he hasn’t been taught that these behaviors are wrong. It’s because he cannot control his impulses.

In fact, overly strict parenting — which may involve punishing a child for things he can’t control — can actually make ADHD symptoms worse. Professional interventions, such as drug therapy, psychotherapy, and behavior modification therapy, are usually required.

ADHD Myth #4: ADHD affects only boys.

Girls are just as likely to have ADHD as are boys, and gender makes no difference in the symptoms caused by the disorder. But because this myth persists, boys are more likely to be diagnosed than girls.

ADHD Myth #5: A kid who can play video games for hours couldn’t possibly have ADHD.

It is quite common for a child with ADHD to be very distractible in one setting, but highly, highly focused in other settings.

Why is this? Because ADHD does not mean no attention. Really, ADHD means dysregulated attention. Environments or activities that are highly stimulating can actually lead to hyperfocus. It’s in the more mundane and less stimulating settings where you see the distractibility really come to the surface.

ADHD Myth #6: Children with ADHD eventually outgrow their condition.

More than 70% of the individuals who have ADHD in childhood continue to have it in adolescence. Up to 50% will continue to have it in adulthood.
Although it’s been estimated that 6% of the adult population has ADHD, the majority of those adults remain undiagnosed, and only one in four of them seek treatment.

Yet, without help, adults with ADHD are highly vulnerable to mood disorders, anxiety, and substance abuse. They often experience career difficulties, legal and financial problems, and troubled personal relationships.

ADHD Myth #7: Children who take ADHD medication are more likely to abuse drugs when they become teenagers.

Actually, it’s just the opposite. Having untreated ADHD increases the risk that an individual will abuse drugs or alcohol. Appropriate treatment reduces this risk.

It is certainly true that children who have ADHD are more likely than their neurotypical peers to abuse substances. However, it is not the use of medication that is driving this effect. We know this through longitudinal studies that compare children with ADHD who are taking medication to children with ADHD who are not taking medication. We follow them over time and see that the ones who are taking medication are at no increased risk of substance abuse relative to the ones who have ADHD and are not taking medication.

What’s more, the medications used to treat ADHD have been proven safe and effective over more than 50 years of use. These drugs don’t cure ADHD, but they are highly effective at easing symptoms of the disorder: They are the first-line of treatment for a reason.

What’s driving this misconception is a very, very common mistake — equating correlation with causation. What’s driving the risk for substance use is the ADHD, not the medication.

ADHD Myth #8: Children who are given special accommodations because of their ADHD are getting an unfair advantage.

Actually, children with ADHD are at a distinct disadvantage, and school policies, accommodations, and education legislation concerning disabilities seeks to decrease this disadvantage as much as possible.

ADHD is a real and meaningful diagnosis. Longitudinal studies tell us unequivocally that the diagnosis of ADHD confers risk for a host of negative outcomes, including not completing high school, dropping out of college, teen pregnancies, car accidents, and a whole wide range of negative outcomes.

The federal Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) aims to decrease these risks at least somewhat by requiring that public schools address the special needs of all children with disabilities, including children with ADHD. Special accommodations, such as extra time on tests, simply level the playing field so that kids with ADHD can learn as successfully as their classmates.

ADHD Myth #9: People who have ADHD are stupid or lazy — they never amount to anything.

Many well-known, high-achieving individuals from the past are thought to have had ADHD, including Mozart, Benjamin Franklin, Abraham Lincoln, George Bernard Shaw, and Salvador Dali. The list of high-achieving people with ADHD in business today includes top executives such as Richard Branson of Virgin, David Neeleman, founder of JetBlue Airways, and Paul Orfalea, founder of Kinko’s.

BY JONATHAN POSNER, M.D.

3 Spiritual Shifts To Heal From Depression By Nicole Wettemann

I want to share with you three of the most profound lessons I have learned in my spiritual journey that have helped me heal from 30 years of depression and anxiety. If you continue to struggle with depression and anxiety, despite therapy and medication, this article may help you come to a deeper understanding of the critical shifts you may need to make.

Healing from anxiety and depression does not come from talking about our pain, revisiting past traumas, or coming to a cognitive understanding of why we have depression. Freedom from depression and anxiety requires vital shifts in our habitual ways of being in this world. Having struggled through thirty years of depression, I do know that these shifts are hard to make. Changing our behavior patterns requires immense commitment and a willingness to look at our maladaptive behaviors and thinking patterns. I also know that when we are genuinely committed to change, it is possible to do so and transform lifelong habits in a relatively short time.

Lesson #1: The past does not define your future

How much of your life do you spend thinking about the past? Maybe you spent a lot of your time revisiting painful memories, trying to make sense of why things happened as they did? Or maybe you’re trying to rationalize another’s behavior, or re-writing old conversations? When you continuously re-examine past events, your brain actually releases the same chemicals as the original event. If for example, you continue thinking about, and talking about past abuse, your brain releases all the same stress hormones and chemically takes you back to that moment. Your body cannot tell past memories from present reality, which is why by continuously remembering and recounting your past, you continually re-traumatize yourself.

Yet, your past does not define your future. You get to decide what you want your future to look and feel like. Spend time every day visualizing and feeling that future version of yourself as though you have already arrived. Just as your mind cannot tell past from present, it also cannot tell present from future. Through this visualization process, your brain will start creating new neural connections and will release the feel-good hormones your future version requires.

Lesson 2: The only thing that ever holds you back are your thoughts

Henry Ford famously said, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” What are the most predominant thoughts you carry? How do you speak to yourself? Your thoughts determine your quality of life. Nothing can derail you faster than negative thinking. Do you ever pay attention to the thoughts inside your head? Have you noticed how negative thinking can tank your mood more quickly than anything anyone else could ever say or do? When you have these negative thoughts, do you believe them? Do you allow them to stop you?

I always tell my clients that a thought is just a made-up story. Stories you have told yourself for a long time become beliefs. In other words, your beliefs are nothing more than thoughts that you have carried for a long time. Start telling yourself a more empowering story, and start noticing how much that will improve your mood, and how much it will change your life experience.

Lesson #3: Personal growth is a continuous process

I hate to be the one to tell you, but there is no end station to your quest to heal. There will always be another layer, another memory, another trigger. As long as we live in a world with outside influences and people we cannot control, there will always be another lesson. When you encounter hurtful behavior or emotional setbacks, say a prayer of gratitude that another layer has been exposed and that you have the opportunity to heal on a deeper level.

Much of our pain really does arise from the resistance of what is. By opening up to the profound wisdom in pain, we learn self-compassion, empathy, and resilience. Each time another event occurs, we get to sharpen our skills, learn some new ones, and emerge stronger. I hope these three spiritual lessons will help you to look at your healing journey in a new light. I do acknowledge these shifts can be challenging to master. But it does not take years to heal at a deep core level, to learn these tools and then forge ahead in creating a more joyful, balanced life. It only requires your commitment to change old habits, to trust your ability to heal, and to change your thinking.

Resilience at this time and cycle

Resilience is our capacity to face challenges and come back stronger. Resilience requires cultivating strength and determination, knowing that on the other side of this crisis is a post-traumatic growth cycle for the world.

I am thankful I have been working on strengthening my capacity to face challenges, which makes me a resilient person. I feel strongly that this trait, can and will help each person who has it, to get through this pandemic, we are currently facing.

Lakshmi’s 5 Rules Of Success By Matt Caron

Lakshmi: The Goddess of Prosperity

Lakshmi has long been revered as an important aspect of the Hindu faith. For countless generations, her likeness adorned temples and homes in the hopes that she would bless her followers with prosperity.

Even the gods held Lakshmi in great respect, because without her they realized that they couldn’t beat back the darkness. The lack of her presence was a direct threat to their lives.

This story has led many in Hinduism to call her the goddess of wealth and success, and to this day many Hindus often invoked her before undertaking any important business or financial decisions.

But with the decision to invoke her presence, there is an even more important need to follow her practical rules for achieving success in life:

 

1. Meditate

Meditation is integral to finding success, and was practiced by all the gods, including Lakshmi.

Grounding your mind, clearing your thoughts, and allowing yourself to truly relax can give you the opportunity to make better decisions.

2. Live Consciously

Lakshmi led a simplistic and relaxed life with Vishnu.

Living simplistically is one of the greatest ways to produce a clear mind. Not only that, but it also implies being clear with your choices; that is, leading a life you actually want to live, not what others want you to live.


3. Passion

Passion is important for finding success. Passion can be anything that works for you: owning a business, exploring your artistic side, building or making things, or just working hard (yes, that is a passion for many people). The key is to infuse your being into it.


4. Strength

Often, Lakshmi would give gifts of weapons to her followers that allowed them to fight back asuras, or demons, so that they could overcome obstacles to peace.

When you set a course to pursue your passion, sometimes it’s not easy. You have to be prepared to fight the challenges set before you, because they’re bound to come; but when you fight and push through, the end of that struggle is that much more rewarding.


5. Courage

Lakshmi would often take the form of the “Dhairya Lakshmi” in order to help her devotees get the courage to defeat evil. Sometimes, she would remove it all together.

It takes a certain level of fearlessness to find success; you must actively let go of things that don’t serve your inner core desires, or even push yourself into a situation that you’re scared of jumping into.