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Ancestry

The snip it is directly from Ancestry.com

I am assuming this is my brother, but it could be my Father, since they both have the same name, which is the only identifying information it has.

My Brother and I are not on speaking terms, so I can’t just pick up the phone and call him.

Let me just say that, if you are not willing to find something, or someone that you may or may not know is related or even exists, then you should NOT take a DNA test and submit it. This is how things that were meant to stay in the dark, come to the light!

Your past can and will most likely, come to haunt you!

Thankful, Grateful & Blessed! 

How Energy-Healing Works By Matt Caron

Energy-Healing

You may have had an experience of energy healing, or perhaps heard about it. And that’s not really a surprise, considering energy-healing has been one of the most popular forms of healthcare in the history of our planet! In fact, every culture known to man has had some form of energy-healing. Whether it’s laying-on-of-hands, praying, visualizing, gemstones, or even nature-healing, they all have one thing in common: they rely on the unseen energies in the universe to guide the healing process.

So how does this work, or better yet, does it work at all?

Ancient healing practices and science

We all know from science that the universe is simply energy. Every object, even our bodies, are simply made up of atoms. Those atoms are made from “condensed” energy. You, me, the earth, the galaxy, the universe, all share that same unique quality. But 100 years ago, we didn’t know that. Scientifically speaking, it was completely heretical to claim the universe was made of energy. There was simply no evidence of it.

But many religions- and in particular, Hinduism- claimed it was.

In fact, Hinduism claimed the universe was made of energy nearly 4,000 years ago! What differentiates the two in modern times is that many religions and spiritual people claim there are other sources of energy, yet to be discovered- just like when science didn’t know that atoms were basically condensed energy. They go on to claim that we can manipulate these energies with our will.

Guiding the energy

Many practitioners claim that the energy they use to heal others comes directly from a universal source, and that they’re simply the “channel”. They use this energy to heal the energy “blocks” in another person. The aura and chakras compose the energetic anatomy- and like the physical body, they must be kept healthy. Often times, they visualize a healing light pouring into a person, clearing their aura and chakras. This, in turn, strengthens the physical body. And it’s claimed that sometimes this even cures physical ailments.

Meditation, healing, and a positive lifestyle all go a long way toward making us spiritually happy.

Is it real?

You can point out some interesting studies that basically say there’s no proof that energetic-healing works. And I’m not saying that those studies aren’t valid. But what I think we have to consider is the fact that SO many people throughout history have benefited from this healing modality. At the very least, consider what a spiritually happy person is like- and consider how that would affect their health versus being depressed or upset. A wonderful article I read recently goes into these concepts very well, as the author tried each popular energetic healing method, and walked away convinced there was something more to it than modern medicine says.

From NYDailyNews.com:

But with so many people extolling the benefits of these techniques, I’m likely to think that there is some unexplainable magic to them. I wouldn’t use them as my only method of treating a disease, but I can see how they complement other therapies.

Pisces ~ February Horoscope

Get in all the downtime you can while it’s still Aquarius season, because once the sun enters Pisces on the 19th, you’re in the spotlight. You get a preview of what’s to come on the 3rd when Mercury enters your sign, and you can’t help but spin your ideas into poems. Who cares? Send that email as a haiku. On the 9th, the full moon in Leo forces you to deal with something you’ve avoided. Don’t get stuck at the DMV or renewing your passport while everyone else is partying. Try to plan ahead.

An identity crisis coincides with Mercury stationing retrograde on the 16th. Who are you really? Don’t get a drastic haircut or change your style on a whim. On the 20th, a compliment from a friend calms you down. The people who have your back really love you.

Your season kicks off on the 19th (happy birthday to you!) and is followed by a new moon in your sign on the 23rd. Self-care isn’t just about face masks and unlimited matcha lattes. It’s about taking care of the hard things too. Commit to something scary that guarantees growth.

Tell yourself

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What have you been trying to avoid, trying to accomplish, How do you see yourself, think of yourself….

Letter to myself!….

Rebeca, I can hardly believe you have made it to 50! It has not been easy, and I know the incredible amount of pain you have not only endured, but survived, learned and thrived through.  I know at times, you felt like giving up. Somehow you got through those times and moved forward even when it felt like you carried the world on your shoulders, the weight at times was so overwhelming you didn’t know how you could or would be able to go on.

You have faced challenges, lessons, and turmoil, mostly by alone, you have shown yourself that the only person you need, is you. You are resilient, independent, and strong in so many ways, you should be proud of yourself, and never let someone who has not walked in your shoes, judge or criticize you.

This thing called life is far from over, challenges will continue to come.

I am confident the future and the present are full of love, and blessings for you. You have paid the price and learned through it all, to be mindful, patient and kind not only to others but to yourself, which at times was the hardest thing to accomplish.

You are able and willing to see things from other perspectives like never before, taking into consideration others feelings and thoughts, keeping in mind NOT to make assumptions, or take anything personally while, keeping your word, and doing your best.

While you have mostly been alone on earth, You know the divine watches over you and protects you. You have many Angels, guardians, and God, sometimes they have had to work over time to keep you safe, they never fail you.

I love who you are and who you are becoming, I admire you, for all that you are.

Thankful, Grateful & Blessed! 

What Is Karma? By Rajan Shankara

I recently had a conversation with Darian Parker — Ph.D., personal trainer, and podcaster — in which we covered many topics regarding my life, meditation, karma, and the changing landscape of religion and yoga and what that all means for people today. One of the highlights for me was our discussion on karma. While most people feel that karma is just something good or bad, the reality is that karma is much deeper than that. Karma is everything.

It’s your karma

We’ve all heard that phrase, “I guess it’s your karma!” Everyone has been in a situation where karma becomes our fate due to a negative situation. Whether a loved on cheated on you, or someone stole something from you, you got fired from work—it’s your karma, so you have to accept it and move on. Or, you’ve experienced a boon! Something good in life has come your way and your karma has brought a blessing. You’ve got good karma now, and it feels good like you’re in the flow of life and you protect that state from getting ruined for as long as you can. Good karma, bad karma—that’s how society has understood this ancient Hindu law of action and reaction.

While those experiences accurately depict karma, they don’t contain the entire meaning.

Karma is life

The truth is, karma is the process and sequence of action and reaction. When we move, speak, think, or act; when there is forward motion consisting of energy, either spontaneously or because of a reaction to something, we are inside of karma. Karma is indeed life itself—a cyclical and unending field of desires happening all over the world, every moment, all the time.

Of course, as good-natured humans, we want good karma, and we’d like to help others by improving their karma at the same time. Most of us would like to avoid bad karma, living as harmoniously as possible. People seek contentment while living a life that has as much meaning and purpose as possible. But, is there a deeper aspect of karma than this? Is there a way to break free from the cycle? Moksha, the Hindu concept of liberation from rebirth, is usually too esoteric for most people to find significance in it. While I don’t recommend you seek to lose your individual identity for the ocean of omniscient bliss by submerging your sense of self with everyone and everything, there are some benefits to seeing the principles that lead to moksha — even if from afar.

Meditation’s hidden meaning

The secret of meditation is that it has the ability to suspend—and eventually burn up—karma. In the deepest of meditations, we don’t have action and reaction, no motion or creation of any kind. Samadhi, as it’s known in Sanskrit, is the removal of attachment to any and all things. As we go deeper into ourselves (beyond the mind) we are slowly freed from form, space, and time, and our consciousness enters into formlessness. This mystic meditation “place” suspends the cyclical nature of creation-through-motion, or life, and temporarily putting a stop to karma. For the advanced yogi, samadhi can burn previous karmas, both good and bad, and keep someone even on the scale of experience.

The goal of every yogi should be to stay even, current, not having too much from the past and not creating too much for the future. In this way, people can be mindful and present as they go about living peacefully. This is what it means to be living in the now. And, this is the Path, the Way, the Tao; the ultimate direction of every peaceful warrior, yogi, mystic, monk, and evolved soul. The fruits of meditation and the understanding of karma isn’t just for yogis, monks, and the naked wanderers of India (Sadhus). This law of past, present, and future harmony is for all people wishing to be content. When we live our lives with this evenness of the scale we can be spontaneous, creative, passionate, present, and caring. The best part about having this philosophy is not only just for individual success, but it also expands out into our small community.

Parents can raise better children; relationships can thrive; corporate business life can be extremely productive; our life can finally have a sense of meaning that extends beyond our base instinctive needs. Knowing our thoughts can influence our actions towards other people, and seeing the sensitive nature and relationship of karma in all things is one of the first steps a soul takes in its own evolution. As my guru taught me,

Closing out San Diego, CA.

I  planned my visit to San Diego for one last time to “deal” with my things, I had left behind in storage, when I moved to Seattle.

New year,  new beginning! It was not an easy decision to come to, much less made in haste. It took me over a year and a half to decide.

2020 is my year to move forward and NOT look back. My decision to get all my things either sold, donated or transported to Seattle, was my way to show the Universe, that I do not plan on going back or backwards.

I am looking ahead, to the future, while living in the present here in Seattle.

As I went through my things, I realized how unattached I had become to them, and my past. I ended up filling up a large outdoor trash can, similar to the one in the pic below.

download (2)Hundreds of pictures and things where left behind in this container. It was time to let go of the past. I did keep a handful of pictures, and gave my Father a stack of pictures, I thought he would like to have.

I ended up walking away from my storage unit, where I left furniture, electronics, brand new Christmas decorations, kitchen things, glasses, some clothing, etc. I gave my Aunt the key and let her have it all. I encouraged her, to either keep it, sell it, simply do with it as she like. I do hope she get some $$$ for it, or enjoys it. Either way it is a win, win.

After my return to Seattle, I was in a bit of shock with a tinge of anxiety, that I had cut so much out of my life permanently. It caused me to feel exhausted and unable to sleep with dreams that portrayed scenes, that went with the feelings I was having.

After a few days of mourning, and reflection, I was over it. I know that there will be times, that I wished I had kept certain things, and that is o.k. I will keep in mind that one persons trash is another’s treasure, and wish that someone has found use and/or pleasure in some way because of it.

Thankful, Grateful & Blessed! 

Why Self-Trust Is CRUCIAL & 6 Ways To Build It by Maria Fendrick

Picture this: You’re sitting in a meeting at work and one of your coworkers is presenting updates on a project that he’s in charge of to a full boardroom. As he speaks, you feel a twinge of jealousy run through you. For a few moments, you’re not sure what caused it. You don’t want his job. You don’t want to be up in front of the room. It isn’t even the praise he receives from your boss, no. It’s how he trusts himself, how he makes decisions and isn’t second-guessing himself all the time. That’s what you wish you had.

Self-trust plays a huge role in our ability to live out our purpose and make an impact in the world. Without it, we’re left spinning in circles, second-guessing and never actually doing anything. This article is intended to help you identify habits that point to low self-trust and to share seven simple ways to strengthen trust in yourself.

Signs you’re lacking self-trust

  1. You second guess yourself a lot.
  2. You need to run even small decisions by someone else before making a choice.
  3. Just knowing you’re going to have to make a decision stresses you out.
  4. You aren’t clear on what you want in life or you question why you’re here or what you’re here to contribute regularly and its uncomfortable.
  5. You wish your phone would ring and that the person on the other end would just tell you what to do already!

Here are some trust-building practices that you can slowly adopt

1) Meditation

Taking a few minutes to ground, center, and connect with your essence is a powerful way to start trusting yourself more and more.

2) Practice making small decisions on your own

No more asking for input on outfit choices, menu items or nail polish colors. You got this. You’re capable of making great choices and small decisions are where it starts.

3) Check-in with your gut

How does your tummy feel when you think about choosing option A? Option B?

4)  Journal

Here are some great questions to ask yourself when faced with making a decision:

  • “What is it about decision making that feels so hard?”
  • “What am I afraid to lose or miss out on if I make this decision?”
  • “What’s the worst thing that can happen if I make a decision I dislike in the future in this situation?”
  • “A year from now will it even matter what choice I made?”

5) Remember almost NOTHING is set in stone

It’s okay to change your mind sometimes.

6) Strengthen your body’s Agni

Agni is the Sanskrit term that refers to the body’s fire of intelligence. Sufficient Agni is required for performing digestion, metabolic processes and one’s capacity for discernment. When Agni is weak, digestion, metabolism and the mind’s ability to make decisions is hampered.

To strengthen your Agni, avoid eating between meals and after 7pm. Move your body to the point of sweating each day and avoid eating foods that are cold and heavy (think ice cream) regularly. I know you have all the guidance you need within you and I hope this article helps you gain greater access to that guidance. Which of the signs that self-trust is lacking do you identify with most? Which of the trust-building practices are you going to try?

How to Put Your Mental Health First This Year A new year can mean a healthier you. By Brittany Loggins

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Whether or not you’re one to make New Year’s resolutions, it’s hard not to take inventory of your life as the new year draws near. At least in my personal case, there are always things I want to change physically—but this year, I’m trying to put more emphasis on improving my mental health. I reached out to Anita Chlipala, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as Megan Jones Bell, PsyD, chief science officer at Headspace, for some strategic steps to take for a more mentally healthy new year.

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Identify your stressors.

It should come as no surprise that in order to face down your mental blocks, you first need to know what they are. “Take an inventory of your stressors,” Chlipala says. “What’s really a priority? Number your stressors on a 1-to-10 scale of importance, and then tackle the most important.”

Not only will this help you get a sense of the biggest concerns in your life, it’ll help you understand where you should be placing your focus. “Sometimes it’s easy to give in to a sense of urgency that can just cause more stress and anxiety,” Chlipala says. “Take it one task at a time.”

Once you’ve identified your stressors, don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Bell explains why “patience and compassion towards yourself” is always the right move. “We must remember that committing to a new habit takes time,” she says. “Rather than putting too much pressure on yourself, start off with small steps and realistic goals that work for you.”

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Set boundaries to avoid negativity.

Once you’ve made your list of mental health priorities, set boundaries. Whether you’re worried about your friend who constantly ditches you or your own negative self-talk, stop quietly tolerating it. “Boundaries are healthy and prevent unwanted behavior from coming at you. Let people know what you won’t tolerate,” Chlipala says.

Setting these goals doesn’t only apply to your friends, but to your own manner of treating yourself. “Challenge your negative self-talk—you can create unnecessary anxiety and feelings of depression by believing every thought that you have,” Chlipala says. “Challenge your thoughts—think of alternative explanations and stories. Look for evidence that the meanings you’re assigning aren’t true.”

One boundary that could make this easier? Cutting back on social media. “Set social media-free time,” suggests Chlipala. “It’s difficult not to compare yourself to what your friends on social media are doing, which can make you feel worse about yourself. Or if you’re dating and fed up with your online dating experience, take a break.”

Finally, ditch the FOMO (or “fear of missing out”). While you are important, and your presence at events is surely felt and loved, things will go on without you. “If you are a self-proclaimed people pleaser, say ‘no’ more often,” Chlipala says. “You’ll also create evidence for yourself that things will still work out even if you’re not a part of it.”

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Prioritize exercise.

Going to the gym shouldn’t be solely about your physical health and appearance—it plays a major role in the state of your mental health as well. Sure, working out can be time-consuming, but it doesn’t have to be.

“Exercise 15 to 30 minutes, three days a week,” Chlipala recommends. “Research shows exercise can help boost your mood and manage anxiety and stress.” That way you’ll be able to take on your boundary-setting with a clear, confident mind. And if it’s been a while since your last sweat session, here’s how to start working out from square one (no shame).

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Take mental breaks.

No matter how many goals you set or lists you make, things will still get stressful and busy. That said, there are things you can do on even the most jam-packed days to make things a little easier and more manageable.

“Try to incorporate mindfulness into your daily activities,” suggests Bell. “Mindfulness is the ability to be present, free from distraction, with an open mind and a kind heart. You can integrate mindfulness into your day to day by bringing more awareness and compassion to the things that you are already doing such as during your commute or while eating a meal.”

Taking a few moments to fully focus on even a small task—putting all other thoughts away—can be incredibly beneficial to your mental health.

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Finally, call in the professionals.

If you’ve been putting off setting up an appointment with a therapist, go ahead and make the call. Introductory sessions are typically intended for you to get a sense of the therapist’s style and personality—and if the two of you don’t align, don’t feel bad about moving on.

“Not all therapists sit back and listen,” Chlipala says. “Find a therapist who is proactive and can give you information and tools to help you and can hold you accountable to make sure you are prioritizing your mental well-being.”

There are 8 types of Empaths and only 1 has to do with feeling the emotions of others by Mary Grace Garis

The experience of being an empath can often feel identical in effect to being emotionally exhausted, namely because empaths absorb the emotions of everyone else. And while that makes sense, given that the core element of empathy is feeling, being an empath can mean so much more than reflecting the highs and lows of others. That’s because there are actually eight different types of empaths—and only two have to do with absorbing the pain of your peers.

Psychiatrist Judith Orloff, MD, fully documents the ins and outs of empathy in her book The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People. Below, she explains each of the eight types of empaths so you can better identify where you fall (and how you feel).

1. Physical empath

“Physical empathy is when you’re attuned to other people’s physical symptoms, and you tend to absorb them into your own body,” says Dr. Orloff. This goes beyond naturally contagious gestures, like laughter and yawning. If your friend is in the throes of a screamingly painful migraine headache, expect to feel tension in your temples, as well. And if you’re babysitting your pubescent niece? You can expect to get a brand-new zit.

On the flip side, she says you can also be energized by someone else’s sense of well being. So, physical empaths might be wise to get themselves a dedicated gym buddy.

2. Emotional empath

An emotional empath is someone who picks up on the emotions of others. This can be lovely in effect, like when your friend gets a promotion and you can feel their happiness, as if you, yourself, were going to be to the Senior VP of Development.

However, emotional empaths can get truly exhausted by friends who are constant complainers who dwell in the negative, or narcissists who suck up all the attention and never reciprocate when they’re feeling down. Because of this, emotional empaths tend to be the first people to get drained by emotional vampires. So, make sure to practice self care and learn how to differentiate other people’s emotions from your own.

3. Intuitive empath

Emotional empathy is often a component of being an intuitive empath without it being the defining factor. According to Dr. Orloff, intuitive empaths generally can sense the unspoken in terms of what’s going on, and that can encompass many qualities. “Emotional empaths simply pick up the emotions of others,” Dr. Orloff says. “But an intuitive empath can sense the unspoken in terms of what’s going on.”

Think of it as having a very thorough, almost holistic kind of superpower. “Intuitive empaths experience extraordinary perceptions, such as heightened intuition, messages in threes, animal and plant communication, as well as pick up other people’s emotions,” she says.

4. Dream empath

Dream empaths can receive intuitive information from dreams that helps themselves and others, Dr. Orloff says. That’s because these types of empaths are typically gifted at clearly remembering dreams, so they’re able to source wisdom from, say, a talking fox, or a deceased relative. A dream empath is also someone who’s able to read between the lines and tease meaning from their own dreams and those of others.

5. Intuitive empath

Think of it as having a very thorough, almost holistic kind of superpower. “Intuitive empaths experience extraordinary perceptions, such as heightened intuition, messages in threes, animal and plant communication, as well as pick up other people’s emotions,” she says.

6. Plant empath

If you’re a plant empath, you can accurately “feel the needs of plants and connect with their essence,” Dr. Orloff says.

People who wilt with their blooms and drink with their succulents aren’t just the best Plant Moms ever, though—they also probably make for great people friends: One of the benefits of being a plant-lover is that offering tenderness to saplings may help you become more compassionate in other areas of life.

7. Earth empath

Earth empaths are rocking a similar vibe to the plant empaths in that both have their hearts tuned to nature. But while your garden-variety (ha) plant empath is more attuned to indoor ferns, earth empaths more so relate to what’s going on with the whole universe.

“The earth empaths are attuned to changes in our planet and our solar system and the weather,” says Dr. Orloff. “So let’s say there’s an earthquake. They can sometimes feel it beforehand. Or, if the Amazon forest is being ravaged, it feels like pain in their body.”

8. Animal empath

Finally, animal empaths are the people who are always hanging with the pet at the party. They have a special connection with animals in that they can often feel their needs and communicate with them in a soothing manner. They cannot stomach any violence toward animals and are more than likely filling their Pinterest boards with vegan recipes.