2020 Financial Habit to Leave Behind: Making Sacrifices for Others
Water ebbs and flows—and so do you. Sometimes you feel totally indulgent and other times out of control—and your money habits can reflect that. In 2020, planets were activating your “people houses,” which turned your introspective focus outward to others. From friends and family in your pandemic bubble, to people in need of charitable support during this unprecedented year, you were in super-empath mode! But with so many upsetting events stirring up your caretaking nature, you got swept into other people’s currents. You may need to tighten your belt or find ways to be helpful that don’t put you in a financial pinch. Being of service doesn’t have to mean sacrificing your own security!
2021 Upgrade: Add More Soul To Your Goals
As the saying goes, “Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.” And as the touchy-feely signs of the zodiac, you can’t help but have a little anxiety about your performance, especially when it comes to your financial future. But in 2021, your intuition will be in fine form! There’s no magic pill that can replace solid work, but you can bolster your dreams by setting (and holding!) clear intentions. As creative water signs know, a picture says a thousand words. Kick off 2021 with a vision board. Keep the Law of Attraction alive all year with positive mantras, wish lists and a clear focus on what you DO want. Since the water sign tendency worry won’t ever go away, set up a support circle for this cathartic bonding. (It can help to air your fears aloud!) Just make sure that you end each session on a proactive note…and with some action steps you’ll take to move the needle!
Most of us can agree that 2020 has been a year of significant shifts. Life as we know it has fundamentally changed, and this can be really hard. The good news is that the astrology transits of 2021 offer an optimistic outlook. According to the cosmos, there’s a new chapter unfolding, and there’s a chance to be the change we want to see and build new ways of being . . . together.
As an astrologer, I look at the patterns, transits, and cycles of the planets. It’s not that these celestial bodies are doing anything to us, but they are currents of light flowing all around us. When we know which way the current is flowing, we can choose which way we want to swim. The astrological trends for 2021 are collaboration, creativity, and fresh beginnings. Here’s what it all means.Related:The Best Ways to Practice Self-Care Based on Your Zodiac Sign
1. The Great Conjunction: Jupiter and Saturn in Aquarius
A conjunction is a fancy way of saying two planets are coming together at the same point in the sky. In this case, we have Jupiter and Saturn. Astrologers call this the great conjunction because it’s a pretty big deal (the last time this aspect occurred in Aquarius was the early 1400s). As we enter this cycle of opportunities, innovation, and connection, it’s as if that coveted Age of Aquarius is starting.
There’s been hype around the Age of Aquarius for centuries. It’s a new age of humanity coming together. From an astrological outlook, 2021 is the beginning of many Aquarius-themed transits. Beginning with the great conjunction, Saturn will remain in this sign for nearly three years and Jupiter for one year. Then in 2023, Pluto will enter Aquarius, where it will stay for 20 years. Although there’s no proving it, given that there are so many planets moving through Aquarius, we can imagine that this new age is finally beginning.
We can look back at the last time these transits occurred to learn and improve moving forward, like reviewing an exam before retaking it. When we spend time reflecting, we build new outcomes instead of repeating history. Back in the early 1400s, which was the last time Saturn and Jupiter joined together in Aquarius, the Renaissance began. During this period of history, attitudes changed and what it meant to be human took on new meaning. Art emerged and the human experience became valuable. This period saw the end of the dark ages. It moved humanity out of a time of plagues and social class disparities.
Aquarius energy cares about the whole, and its focus is on the greater good. It’s the team player who gives all people a seat at the table, not just a privileged few. Beginning in 2021, we can expect an emphasis on inclusion, diversity, and the dismantling of oppressive systems; it’s a time of evening the playing field.
We can also reflect on our lives to see what themes emerged back then and what those periods taught us. That wisdom will be valuable for moving forward. Can we see connections between those periods of history and now? Are we open to diverse voices and demographics taking power and becoming leaders? Are we ready for new technology and innovation? Like the times before the Renaissance, we have been in some dark experiences. Could we be on the verge of a renaissance, which means rebirth in English? After 2020, whose ready for a restart?
Sagittarius is about expansion, potential, and what’s possible, but things are only possible if we believe them, so this energy is connected to our beliefs. Sag wants us to see the glass half full — it wants us to dream and use our imaginations.
Gemini energy is about curiosity, humor, and having fun, but just because that’s the lesson doesn’t mean it is going to be easy. If we are willing to take the assignment, our homework is to change our beliefs, open our hearts, learn from each other, and have fun! An eclipse on Dec. 14, 2020, is teaching us this, big time. There will also be eclipses on May 26 and June 10, 2021, that call in these themes.
3. Venus and Mars Joining Forces
In 2020, both Venus and Mars retrograded. Instead of things flowing smoothly, it was a year of digging deep and retracing our steps. The planet of relationships (Venus) and the planet of action (Mars) will not retrograde in 2021, which means smoother sailing ahead.
Not only will Venus and Mars move forward, but they will also come together in Leo. The conjunction is occurring from the end of June 2021 through July 2021. This connection is like a reunion of feminine and masculine energy, which plays out in our internal and external worlds. It’s a time for harmonious relationships, creativity, and playtime.
There’s Hope For 2021
The astrology of 2021 brings a ton of potential. The Aquarian transits are teaching humanity the importance of sharing the stage and serving the greater good. There is a seat for everyone at this table, not just a few with the privileged VIP pass. The eclipses are expanding our horizons and reminding us that solutions come from learning. Lastly, this summer, Venus and Mars come together, giving a dose of open-hearted energy that urges us to own our passions and create a new chapter
There are a couple of things we can do when we feel obsessed with ‘helping’ others so that we can actually start to say NO to them, and YES to ourselves.’~ Lana Goes
“Gosh! How many times will it take me to learn?” I mutter under my breath because once again, I struggled to say NO. I have always been a person who loves to help others, and often, I go out of my way to do it. This time I was helping a friend drop her daughter to school every day when it was inconvenient for me. My kids used to squish in the car to accommodate my friend’s daughter, and the whole drama left me drained by the time I reached work. I tried giving her subtle hints that this was not working for me, but I guess they were not clear enough. I did not know how to tell her that without offending her. She used to take things very personally, and I knew this would not turn out well.
Say no to others to honor yourself
‘When you are saying Yes to others, make sure you don’t say No to yourself’- Paulo Coelho.
But when things went terrible the damn burst and it turned ugly. We stopped talking. It turned nightmarish because our kids were in the same class and it affected them as well.
This time I realized I couldn’t go on like that. I had to find a better way to be ‘ assertive ‘ because I was distraught that my kids were dragged into it. I was hell-bent on solving this issue once and for all. As I introspected the matter, I realized that in situations like this, I do have a choice in the matter. I can choose not to help. But this was harder than I imagined it to be because I soon realized that overextending was my reflex action in many situations. Determined to get to the bottom of this, I went on this journey of self-discovery, and that’s where I came across an interesting piece of Psychology, called the Karpman’s Drama Triangle. Dr. Stephen Karpman, an MD, who coined the Karpman drama triangle, describes this role of the over-helper as the ‘Rescuer’.
The Rescuer is like the knight in shining armor who gallops on the white horse waiting to save the day. In society, we glorify this role, and we all want to be a version of the ‘Knight’ and expect to be honored and revered for it. Of course, when we don’t get the honor, reverence, or respect, we sulk because nobody appreciates our effort! While there is nothing wrong with helping others, we must not cross a fine line, which borders on Obsessive helping. It is detrimental to ourself and others. The Rescuer feels obligated to rescue and feels as though the world would fall apart without their rescue mission. The underlying truth beneath that lie is a belief that their needs are not essential, and to disguise their unmet needs, they focus on the needs of others and ignore/ deny their problems.
According to Karpman, rescuers do injustice to themselves on two fronts. First, by ignoring their issues, and second, to feel some sense of worth, they do the other person’s work for them, in turn, rendering the other person feeling incapable of solving their problem. The other who secretly does not like feeling incapable then persecutes the Rescuers. The Rescuer then becomes the martyr who feels used and goes into the Victim Zone. To armour ourselves against this defence mechanism that harms us, I have found that there are a couple of things we can do when we feel obsessed with ‘helping’ others so that we can actually start to say NO to them, and YES to ourselves.
Say NO: how to let go of the need to ‘help’ others
Instead of rushing to help someone in need, we can introspect on the following:
Have we been asked for help directly? We cannot count subtle cues here.
Did someone use a magic wand to sort out our issue, or did we have to take responsibility for ourselves?
Did our vulnerable situation help us to grow wiser? Most of them do. Can we give the other that opportunity?
What would we have liked when we were in a situation like that? Maybe a helping hand or a listening ear. Be just that to the person— without being overly involved in the case.
2) Limit your help
Instead of rushing to help and taking over, there are other ways of assisting without overextending yourself:
By hearing the person out.
Asking the person questions allows them to see the possibility of positive action.
By asking questions so that the person knows what they want and don’t want.
3) Take responsibility for yourself
Since this is a defense mechanism, it is essential to take responsibility for yourself by:
Understanding what our feelings, needs, and wants are and take responsibility for them. Be aware if are you comfortable doing what the person has asked for or do you feel obligated to help.
Be honest to yourself about your reason for wanting to over help. What underlying need serves you?
Be assertive in Saying’ No if you do not want to do a specific action.
Remember that everything and everyone is not your responsibility.
What other things can you do to enrich yourself instead? Like every other defense mechanism, BEING OVER HELPFUL also limits our growth. So say NO and stop fooling yourself that you are doing it for others because although part of it comes from the right place, another part has toxic elements. When you find yourself in the grips of this energy, doing the things you love or that enrich you help break the hold it has on you.
In such situations, I read or write. It gives me perspective, keeps me grounded, helps draw boundaries. I am then able to help others enough so that it does negatively impact me nor be hurtful to them.
So, the next time you catch yourself getting on a white horse to rescue someone, take the time to pause before say no or yes, and reflect on your decision.
We’re all beings of energy with the ability to clearly sense the world around us. You may frequently tend to just know answers to questions without explanation, receive gut feelings when you know something isn’t right, or even see visions of what your future holds. Many people associate clairvoyance (clear seeing) with psychics. Clairvoyance is just one of the 7 main “clairs,” or intuitive senses. If you have one or two strong senses and want to develop others, don’t worry — you don’t need to be psychic. You just have to intend to develop them.
Clairvoyance (clear seeing) commonly happens when you are able to see visions in your mind’s eye. You may see things happen before they do, or you may receive clear images in your mind. Symbols may also arise, which help guide you as clues to research. Clairvoyance is commonly associated with psychics, fortune tellers, or those able to “see” the future. When your third-eye chakra is open, it becomes easier to be clairvoyant.
Clairsentience (clear feeling) happens when you receive strong sensations in your physical body. You may experience strong gut feelings or sensations in your chest that act as signals to act. With clear feeling, you easily feel things to be true — and they always are.
Claircognizance (clear knowing) is a strong intuitive sense in many people. If you always tend to just know things and answers seem to just pop into your mind, then you are claircognizant. You may have no idea where the answers come from, but you know they’re correct. Claircognizance comes from tapping into the unified field of ether, in order to easily receive downloads of knowledge.
Clairaudience (clear audio/hearing) happens when you perceive sounds from the etheric realm. You may all of a sudden hear a song that isn’t playing, or hear noises that are inexplainable. You may also have ringing in your ears, which signals intuitive downloads of information.
Clairsalience or clairscent (clear smelling) is common when you suddenly smell specific scents or fragrances that are nowhere near you. You may also smell food or certain odors from past events, in the present moment.
Clairgustance (clear tasting) can be surprising, because you instantly taste something that is not in your mouth. It may be something you had eaten long ago which gets mixed up in the frequencies of your current reality, or something that your body intuitively craves for nourishment.
Clairtangency (clear touching) happens when you are able to know something about an object simply by touching it. Your hands receptively act to sense energy, which lets you uncover more knowledge. This is how energy healers sense energy with their hands, in order to determine where energy blocks are.
Clairempathy (clear emotion) is common in many people. If you’re able to sense the emotional energy of others, you are clairempathic. Clairempathics or Empaths easily absorb the energy of others, which can cause them to feel drained. If you easily sense the emotions of another person or your environment, then it’s important to create energetic boundaries.
This post is not for you if you are full of energy, feeling happy all the time and everything is great in all aspects of your life. In this case, it’s you who should provide others with advice. This post is for those people who feel uncomfortable when they are at home, for those who don’t feel much vitality most of the time, who think that their personal growth is restrained by something.
If you already visited your physician and psychologist and this didn’t help, you should try to apply to the old Chinese philosophical system — feng shui. Before bringing objects which magnetize good luck and positive energy, you should get rid of subjects that can bother the flow of energy lines.
1) Don’t Put the Mirror in Front of Your Bed
Sleeping is an important part of our lives and we should protect our sleep from things that can bother us. There’s a belief that a mirror which is situated in front of your bed is a very bad idea. There are several explanations for why it is destructive for a person. Almost all of them are based on the idea that a mirror is a portal between our world and a spirit-world. That way, when you are sleeping your soul can leave your body and stay in the mirror between the worlds. Or, a soul of a dead person can capture your body. According to another belief, the mirror in front of your bed can cause spouse cheating.
2) Don’t Keep Chipped Dishes
Dishes are a symbol of a family’s welfare. Chipped dishes, particularly cups can cause bad luck to your house. No matter how much you love a certain cup, if it is damaged, you shouldn’t drink from it. Otherwise, you can unintentionally welcome troubles to your home. Also, drinking and eating from cracked dishes is not good for your health because you can hurt yourself or eat harmful bacteria which thrive in the flaws.
3) Put the Water Out of Your Bedroom
Water is very good for people’s physical health but it can be harmful to our energetic balance according to feng shui. When decorating your bedroom, don’t put pictures with the image of water. No oceans, no seas, no lakes, even puddles or something of this nature should be represented in your bedroom. Images of water can cause illness and lack of vitality. It can be harmful to keep water in opened vessels in a bedroom as well. You shouldn’t particularly place fountains because running water symbolizes money loss. That’s also why if your pipes are damaged and leaking, try to call a plumber as soon as possible.
4) Refrain from having Certain Plants
Though according to feng shui plants, in general, are gratifying for your home, some of them can cause troubles for you. For example, a bonsai is a bad choice for you. This tree, as well as the cactus, is stunted and it just can’t symbolize growth. If you have a bonsai or a cactus, you might notice that you don’t prosper for some time. You should know that plants with prickles, except for roses, attract bad luck to your home. Instead, you should put plants with broad succulent green leaves.
5) Never Put Crystals Near the Entrance
Some feng shui ‘specialists’ say that crystals bring energy to your house – however, it is not actually true. Indeed, crystals have the ability to pull up and accumulate energy but this doesn’t mean that they will share that positive energy with your home. If you put crystals near, or what is even worse, above the doors or windows, crystals will take and keep inside themselves all positive energy that comes to your home. As crystals symbolize earth, having crystals above you means being under the earth, buried. This is not a good sign. You can place a crystal near a window where it deflects sun rays and you can see a rainbow as a result, but put only one crystal in this case. There’s no need to bring myriads of crystals home and put them in each corner.
6) Don’t Hang the Calendar Near the Door
One more thing that shouldn’t be situated near the entrance door is a calendar. It is believed that the calendar symbolizes the fast flow of time. Energy gets in your dwelling through the front door and it changes according to objects that are situated near it. You already know the effect of crystals near the entrance door. And what is concerning calendars, they can negatively influence the lifetime of house inhabitants. You definitely shouldn’t hang calendars of the wrong year. Also, constantly change the date on your calendar if the calendar is designed that specific way.
Finally, here are some items that will help you to regain energy balance at your home!
Acquire Elephants and Tortoises
The tortoise is a very important animal in feng shui philosophy. It is one of four Celestial Animals who are the guardians of good energy. You can use turtles for protection and boosting positive energy. Typically, turtles are situated near the back door of your house for protection. Placing a turtle which is black-colored and made of metal in the North will help your career to thrive. A small statue of this animal can be placed in any other place which needs more stability. If you bring an elephant, or better, several statues or images of elephants home, good energy will prosper in your dwelling. Elephants symbolize good luck, fertility, protection and wisdom.
Get a Laughing Buddha
This item will bring wealth and happiness to you and your family. It is better to put it in the West part of your home. Also, it brings health and good luck.
Grow a Money Tree
As you already know, stunted trees shouldn’t be placed at home. Money trees are the opposite case. This plant has wide round leaves which are very succulent. A money tree at home will bring more material wealth to your dwelling and of course more oxygen.
Bring Red Lanterns to Your Bedroom
Red lanterns symbolize warmth, protection, love and positive energy. If you bring them to your bedroom, this will positively influence your well-being and relationships between partners. Also, these subjects influence longevity. These were basic instructions on how to deal with different items at home. There are many more feng shui recommendations which you can follow to magnetize happiness. Wish you good luck and joy
The best friends are the ones who know how to make you laugh and who are full of life and spirit. They are the ones who bring you joy, hope and comfort, even in the midst of life’s most difficult situations.
When you are with them, you embark on adventures together, experience life fully, and, most importantly, you can laugh together! Laughter truly is the best medicine. A real, true friend makes sure you take that medicine regularly.
Human beings were not designed to live life alone. However, some people are more comfortable being alone or even prefer it. Still, it is important to have at least one real, true friend in your life
The fact of the matter is, having a real, true friend will improve your life drastically. Although it is not always easy, the world is a big enough place that you can find people to be the friends that you truly need.
Some of us have so many friends that it is hard to tell which friendships are genuine. We often align ourselves with people and groups but feel our companionship needs are still not being met. Some friends can be unresponsive or even toxic, and it is best to cut those people out of your life
You may be wondering, what makes a genuine friendship? How do we find and keep friends who encourage and strengthen who we are? How do we maintain friendships with the demands of our jobs, family and other responsibilities?
There is a wide range of traits you will find in a real, true friend. We’ve narrowed it down to five of the most critical aspects of friendship.
Being trustworthy is a trait that is essential for understanding that the deepest relationships are the ones in which we can confide in each other. Trustworthy friends remind you that you are not alone and empower you to be a better person. Free yourself by being honest with your friends, even brutally so in some cases.
People remember honesty. Try to be the person others trust because of that honesty. It’s a rare trait we crave these days. Think of a time where you discovered a person or group of people engaged in gossip with you as the subject. That usually starts when someone betrays trust and reveals a secret or indiscretion that was not intended for public consumption. This is a betrayal a true friend would never commit.
Be the friend that others know will keep certain things confidential. Further, if you are among a group of people who decide to gossip about someone, not present, refuse to participate. People will begin to realize how trustworthy of a person you are.
Assertiveness is not always a sign of someone trying to stir up trouble just for the fun of it. Genuine friends will call us out when we’re wrong. We all have flaws. Real friends mindfully identify them not to be spiteful, but for accountability’s sake.
Be assertive with keeping your friendships. Don’t wait for the other to call you; be first. Don’t always wait for people to invite you, be first.
“One thing that really gets in the way of these bonds is when people don’t make time to be with their friends truly,” says Robert Rowney, D.O., a certified psychiatrist and the director of the Cleveland Clinic mood disorder unit, “if you don’t purposefully make time to see them, it can really hinder the friendships overall and it’s one of the main reasons why friendships fall by the wayside.”
Holding a grudge will not benefit you in any way. It drains your mental energy and makes you seem weak. In nearly every case, a dispute can be resolved. Try to understand the cause of the action with maturity and critical thinking skills.
Ask yourself: What motivated them to act this way? Did something recently happen to them? How can I help them? Approach the person with openness and be humble. If a resolution cannot be achieved, the best thing you can do is forgive. It may plant the seed for reconciliation down the road.
5. Team Players
Being a team player and putting others’ needs before your own for a shared goal is what friendship is all about. Communicating, collaborating and active listening are essential to make the most successful teams unstoppable.
Just like you, your companions have their hopes and dreams. A person who reassures their friends is a true friend. They give you encouraging words and make you feel confident about yourself.
Doesn’t it feel great when someone pats you on the back after achieving a certain goal? The next time a friend crushes an obstacle, celebrate that win with them, however small it may be. Your perception of the level of their hardships should never abstain from showing how proud you are of them.
Something else that shows you are a team player is putting your phone away while you are with a friend. In this day and age, that might be hard, but it is sure to help you be present.
Today is Christmas Eve of 2020. What a year it has been, one that has affected the world. I choose to believe it will change the world for the better, one thing I do feel is that the world as we knew it, will never be the same, that might be for the best.
Presently I am cooking, my boyfriend will be coming over, we will have Christmas Eve dinner, watch movies, and snuggle.
I have been listening to Christmas music all day, counting my blessings, and finding so much to be grateful for. I encourage everyone to be thankful for all that you have, and all that is yet to come.
Blessing and signs are all around us, all you have to do is pay attention, slow down and enjoy, there is always something to be grateful for.
This season, I am grateful for my health, my home, my job, my boyfriend, all the positivity around me, all my angels that at times have to work overtime, my guides, my Soulmates, the Universe! I look around and see beauty.
Wishing the world a Happy Holiday Season, filled with love, joy and good health!
Research has linked giving of yourself to longevity, as well as feeling more energetic and stronger, and emotionally rewarded. A Carnegie Mellon University study found that adults over the age of 50 who volunteered for 200 or more hours a year were less likely to develop high blood pressure. And those who volunteered at least one hour in the past 12 months had better psychological well-being than non-volunteers. Marta Zaraska, author of Growing Young: How Friendship, Optimism, and Kindness Can Help You Live to 100, highlights in her book that people who give back spend 38 percent fewer nights in the hospital than those who don’t. And, per the author, many of the same benefits that giving back provides, such as a reduction in stress, can be experienced through performing random acts of kindness, no matter how small.
Identify someone who could use some kindness. Maybe your child’s teacher, a neighbor, a family member or a friend is going through a hard time, or maybe you just want to brighten someone’s day for no particular reason.
Ask yourself, “How can I be nice to others today?” Think of little actions you could take to put a smile on someone’s face.
Baby steps. A kind act can be as simple as delivering a compliment. “Let others ahead in traffic, open doors for other people or smile at others,” Zaraska explains. (Even if you are wearing a mask, people can recognize the smile behind it.)
Take a grassroots approach. Think of what you can do right now to make a difference in another’s life and go out and do it. When researching her book, Zaraska says she: “bought sandwiches for a homeless family, donated books, baked cookies for my husband to take to work and share with colleagues, fed stray cats, picked up trash around my neighborhood and put a sticky note with a smiley face and ‘have a good day’ on a neighbor’s car.” Zaraska says performing these acts lowered her stress levels. In a self-experiment, she even performed a daily cortisol test and found her levels of the stress hormone dropped after her own acts of kindness.
Do some digging. Reach out to people you’d like to help and collect some intel as to what kind acts they would appreciate the most. Maybe your elderly neighbor needs to have his lawn mowed. Or your friend is looking for someone to take care of her dog next weekend. If you have some time to spare, sign up for the task.
Join an organization. Many charities are looking for volunteers to do everything from assemble care packages for the homeless to virtually read to kids over Zoom. Check out aarp.org/volunteer to explore roles with AARP’s volunteer programs and use the volunteer wizard to express areas of interest and your skills. AARP’s Create the Good site helps connect you to nonprofits in your area seeking volunteers as well as links to thousands of volunteer-from-home opportunities. Need more ideas? Consider visiting these sites: serve.gov, idealist.org or volunteermatch.org.
Become a cheerleader. Being an emotional support for another person can go a long way toward benefiting your own health. A 2017 study found people who comforted those going through difficult times via an online social network experienced a reduction in depression and boost increasedin their own happiness. So next time you see a sad post from a pal on Facebook, comment back with some encouragement or reach out to check in.
Give money to an organization in need. Make a donation to a medical research organization, sign up to sponsor a child overseas, or contribute to a natural disaster relief fund. Visit charitynavigator.org or charitywatch.org to vet a charity you are thinking of contributing to
It might not be your style to start thinking about goals before the new year, but in 2020, you are SO ready to do exactly that. And the stars support your mission! The Sun’s in Sagittarius and your career sector for the first three weeks of the month, catalyzed by a total solar eclipse on December 14. Your plans and priorities could make a sudden pivot—but whichever direction they turn, you’ll be playing in a brand-new league.
The winter solstice on December 21 is extraordinary this year as it also marks the Great Conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn, an exact alignment that only happens every 20 years. Get ready for a spiritual and creative awakening, one that you’ve never before experienced! You may be saying goodbye to one chapter of your life in order to make way for something that truly speaks to your soul. Be willing to release something that no longer serves you, so the stars can rewire your line to the divine with a high-speed connection.
Weeks 1 and 2: December 1-13
Get down to business
Might as well get to work! With the holidays all but canceled, you may feel more grateful than Grinchy that Sagittarius season, your peak career month, is happening in December. The distraction of productivity (and profit, at a time when it’s most needed) will be welcomed. The Sun is in Sagittarius and your goal-oriented, ambitious tenth house until Monday, December 21, joined by mental Mercury here from December 1 to 20. Use your creativity, communication skills and social media outlets to get an advantageous leg up. Since music is the native language of many Pisces, add the lesser-known Prince gem “Let’s Work” to your playlist and set the tone for an upbeat, unconventional holiday season.
But try to stay balanced when workaholic mode kicks in or your rebellious streak will make a showing. The urge to escape your duties could hit hard on Sunday, December 13, when Mercury will square off against your ruler Neptune in Pisces. Give yourself a big timeout as a reward for your toils. Just don’t go so far to the extreme that you put yourself at risk health-wise.
Week 3: December 14-20
Step up and step out (remember your mask!)
Chill time is officially over, Pisces! The rest of the month will move at an active pace as the stars get busy all the way until the calendar turns. It all starts on Monday, December 14, when a total solar (new moon) eclipse lands in your tenth house of career and success. Is it time to step into a leadership role or pursue your true path? Ready or not, this game-changing eclipse could set the stage for a big transition. You may leave one professional position and move into another, get a smoking-hot new client or be offered a promotion with perks.
This could unfold over the next six months, or it could happen abruptly and out of the blue. At eclipses, the number one rule is to expect the unexpected!
This week, TWO planets—lucky Jupiter and structured Saturn—will both move into Aquarius and your twelfth house of healing, creativity and release for extended tours. On Thursday, December 17, structured Saturn ends a three-year term in Capricorn and moves into Aquarius, where it will remain until March 6, 2023. And in a rare convergence, this Saturday, December 19, expansive Jupiter also exits Capricorn and moves into Aquarius until December 28, 2021.
Ever since December 2017, the people on Team Pisces have been leveling up as mature and structured Saturn marched through Capricorn and your eleventh house of collaboration and technology. Saturn transits can teach us tough lessons, but this one was relatively gentle—and vastly improved the integrity of your inner circle.
As an empathic Fish, you’ve got a generous heart for some of the most difficult and downtrodden characters—and if we’re being honest, not all of them deserved a place in your aquarium. Saturn came along and cleaned out your metaphorical tank, stocking your pond with folks who had true character. You learned that “less is more” when it comes to friendships—and that the company you keep deeply reflects on you.
The eleventh house also rules collaborations, social justice and community, and while enthusiastic Jupiter visited Capricorn from December 2019 until this week, your inner activist was awakened. You learned the power of working with a diverse and respectful crew. As your fellow Pisces Ruth Bader Ginsburg once said, “You can disagree without being disagreeable.” That was a banner you were asked to carry in 2020, cosmically speaking.
The current divisive state of the world wounds your tender Piscean heart—it’s the antithesis of what you fundamentally stand for, even as a “dual-natured” sign. And going forward, your healing powers are about to be in high demand.
As Jupiter and Saturn move into Aquarius and your mystical, closure-focused twelfth house (Jupiter for the first time since 2009, Saturn since 1994), the next year of your life will be colored by its themes. You may feel like you’re on a long artistic or spiritual retreat, which isn’t the worst thing for you!
It just so happens that, as the twelfth sign of the zodiac, Pisces is the natural ruler of this zodiac zone. Being doubly blessed by structured Saturn and inspirational Jupiter in your home court could turn you into a heavy-hitter in an artistic, musical or healing field. If you work in a nonprofit or around any social issues, you could rise to a leadership role. Where can you bring more love, art and compassion to the universe, Pisces?
The twelfth house rules endings, and you may navigate some closure or forgiveness work. As the veil between this plane and the supernatural lifts, you could get into hypnosis, mediumship or plugging into the divine however you choose. Meditation, breathwork and visualization can all become regular practices, if they aren’t already.
Mark your calendar for Monday, December 21, when Jupiter and Saturn unite at the closest point in their orbits since 1623. This event, called the Great Conjunction, combines Jupiter’s enthusiasm with Saturn’s pragmatism. These two powerhouse planets only travel through the same zodiac sign simultaneously every 20 years. When they do, we feel double the vibration of whatever sign they’re in. Our loftiest ambitions can also become reality. For a sign like yours that can get dreamy and drifty, you’ll be grateful to have Saturn putting some architecture and deadlines behind your visions. Get ready for a huge portal to open, Pisces. Emotional and spiritual breakthroughs await!
Week 4: December 21-31
Wired and tired
You THOUGHT you were ready to slow down…but your friends have other ideas. Right as the Great Conjunction ignites your restful, spiritual twelfth house, your social life picks up speed. This Monday, December 21, brings the Sun’s entry into Capricorn and your eleventh house, a time for teamwork and togetherness. Even if you’re skipping the in-person holidays, you could be racking up Zoom invites or feeling obligated to send festive gifts to your circle. (Yup, last-minute Christmas shopping can be just as hectic online.)
Pace yourself between now and January 19 because you could be both wired and tired. While you’ll certainly crave the company of your favorite people, even if it’s by phone/video, there will be times that you quickly run out of steam. Let yourself recuperate and don’t overload your schedule. You need that Piscean solitude and dream time to keep yourself balanced.
One day that could push you over the edge is Wednesday, December 23, when stressful Mars and volatile Pluto clash in an intense square, driving up conflict. This is the third of 2020’s three Mars-Pluto squares; the other two were on August 13 and October 9. With angsty Mars in your money sector, you could feel the stress of pre-holiday deadlines or expenses. And as manipulative Pluto in your group sector T-bones the red planet, the pressure to go in on a group cost, for example, could leave you seething. Why should YOU pay an equal share of something when others will benefit more? The workload on a team project could also be unfairly divided, and you could feel dumped on by your crew.
While you might normally suck it up (not that this is a good thing), the Mars-Pluto square could push you over the edge. Before you snap, try to work this out through dialogue. But know that you might be dealing with a lot of emotional blackmail, and someone could even gaslight you into feeling like you’re wrong for standing up for yourself. Don’t take the bait, Pisces. It’s more than okay to have boundaries.
If you really need to get things off your chest, your chance could arrive at the annual Cancer full moon this Tuesday, December 29. As la luna illuminates your fifth house of passion and self-expression, you won’t be able to hold anything back—including your attraction to someone. You may not be able to get under any actual mistletoe, but with these moonbeams glowing your love zone, romantic confessions and outpourings abound.
Attached Pisces could enjoy some holiday heat, and possibly even babymaking if you’re of that demographic. This is a day for celebration and fun, so find a way to get your holiday joy on safely. But watch that you don’t push things too far. A surge of emotions could come bubbling up without warning, along with knee-jerk reactions (from bursting into tears to exploding with rage). Indulging in excessive eating and drinking will only make this worse, so moderate your intake because your inner hedonist is ready to seize the reins.
Are you an artist or performer? Your talents could attract buzzworthy fame. Go ahead and post a behind-the-scenes glimpse of your watercolor masterpiece, nail art or studio-recorded vocal session. Reclaim the pre-pandemic meaning of “going viral” by sharing your uplifting creations with the world.
The year ends on a more sedate note as New Year’s Eve brings a moon in Leo and your sensible, healthy sixth house. You might be making lists and setting intentions, or spending time in nature if the weather allows. Keep things simple and opt for a healthy-ish meal with mocktails on the menu. Under these crafty stars, you might opt to spend the #canceled NYE engrossed in a puzzle or a DIY project…which could be even more fun with hors d’oeuvres and champagne. The sixth house also rules service, so find ways to give back and express your gratitude, if only for making it through this intense and surreal year. Send a care package to loved ones and friends who’ve been impacted by COVID hardships—your Piscean thoughtfulness is needed more than ever.
Are you unhappy and dissatisfied with life? Do you think that you are aimlessly moving with no vision? If you want to change the direction of your life or lead a more fulfilled life, with meaning and authenticity, then you are in the right place. I hope my journey can shed light on yours.
What does it mean to live a fulfilled life?
To live a fulfilled and authentic life means living a life aligned with your purpose and calling. It is to try to make heaven on earth by making a difference in your life and the lives of others. It is living life on your terms and lets you be the guide for your life. For that, we should stop living on autopilot like Robots and need to be clear of our vision. This vision will guide us to take the necessary steps.
4 clues that you do not lead a fulfilled life
1) We do not lead a fulfilled life if we live a life like my IRobot Roomba.
If we live like my I Robot — Roomba, it is a clear sign that we do not lead a fulfilled life. What does that mean? My Roomba leaves my floors immaculate. I just press start in the morning and it goes on like a headless chicken with some marginal amount of intelligence. But boy, does it keep my floors sparkling! The life we live today is similar to Roomba. We get up in the morning, press the start button, and go on non-stop with life. Do we ask questions? No, we just execute without reflection. We do not ask if there are other options. No, we just do it. We crunch the damn numbers and live like zombies, with mental lists galore. We are continuously on the checklist and go tick, tick, tick.
2) If we allow fear to control us.
The second clue is if we are so paralyzed with fear that we don’t think straight. When we live in such a state, we stop believing in ourselves. We don’t take risks nor do things that we love. We don’t have time to love others. So we compensate it with money, status, job security, perfectionism, overwork, etc. We continue till the day ends like zombies and like my Roomba, we robots go back to our dock, only to start all over again tomorrow. All things on the list checked. Job well done and we expect a pat on our pat.
3) We do not live a fulfilled life if we are too clouded to know what’s not important
The next clue is if we are constantly unhappy or feel lackluster. We will have it all, the house with the picket fences, beautiful spouse, wonderful kids, friendly neighbors, and the clubs. You name it. We’ll have it! But what we don’t have is the time to appreciate the beauty of it all because we are constantly distracted. We are so wrapped up delivering, acquiring, safety, stability, and fear that we miss out on the simple and beautiful things of life.
4) We do not lead a fulfilled life if we only depend on external sources to guide us
If we do not believe in our light and constantly seek validation from others, it is a clue that we do not live a fulfilled life. When I ask Roomba to do something out of the manual, it says, ‘ ‘It’s not my job! My job is to give you a squeaky clean house. Don’t ask me for anything that’s not mentioned in my instruction manual!’ Like Roomba, we too expect an instruction manual to guide us. We don’t believe in ourselves and instead, look up to others to guide us or seek their approval.
How do we lead a fulfilled life?
We can lead a fulfilled and authentic life by asking ourselves pertinent questions and reflecting on the choices we make. Some of them are outlined below
Step -1: self-assessment or find your road map
What do we want/love in life?
Most often we go through life like headless chickens not knowing what we want. Some of the questions that need answers are: How do we want to spend our time? Do we want to spend more time with family? Or do we want to make a difference in people’s lives? If yes, how do we go about doing that or how do we take small but necessary steps in that direction?
What do we not like in our life?
To ensure our time is well spent, it is also important to know what we do not like about our life so that we can make changes in those areas. Some of the questions we can ask ourselves are: Do we love our jobs and our colleagues? Is our job draining the life out of us? Are we settling for less than we deserve? Is the travel time worth it? Once we have those answers, what steps can we take to actively reduce those things which do not add value to our life?
How are we in the self-care arena?
The next question we need to be asking ourselves is about our health, exercise, and nutrition regime. Are we happy with our health and exercise routine? Are we grossly neglecting it or are we overdoing it? Do we have adequate rest and sleep or are we burnt out and overwhelmed? Is our food intake satisfactory? Does it include real food or food out of the box every day? If any of these areas are not satisfactory, what steps are we taking to change the course?
How are we in the connection circle?
We need to assess how we connect with society at large? Are we happy with our connections? Do we have enough friends when the going is rough? Or do we have a support system? Do we talk to our neighbors and know what’s happening in their lives? Do we chat and connect with our parents and siblings? If not, what steps can take to remedy that?
Do we have time for ourselves?
Lastly, we need to assess if we have time for ourselves and the things that enrich us. Do we have time to pursue the things we love, our passions and hobbies? Do we even remember what they are? If not, what steps are we doing to get out of the rut?
Step 2 — Taking action
Now that we have the map, (our life vision) of what we want, the next step is to take action. Without action, everything is a pipe dream. What we need to do is to take action aligned to our purpose and vision. The road to that is not easy, nor is it wise to shift gears instantly. Some of the ways I have found helpful in taking aligned action are outlined below:
Find your playing field
Before making any changes to your life, it is important to find your playing field. For example, if you want to spend more time with the kids, but can’t quit working, either for financial or for personal reasons, being creative in your decisions will help steer your ship in the right direction. You could consider options like finding a job that suits you better or look at part-time roles. When I realized that I wanted to spend more time with the kids as they grew up, I quit my banking job to work in a school as a teacher for a few years. As the kids grew older, I moved back to a finance-related role in a part-time position. What I wanted in life guided my career decisions instead of it being the other way around.
Find your trade-off
The choices you make impact you more than you can imagine. Hence before embarking on a new journey, it is important to gauge your limits so that you can avoid overwhelm. What helps in this area is to know what you are ready to trade-off.
I battled a lot with myself before I quit the bank as it created a hole in my heart. Banking was not only my life and soul but also a big part of my identity. But with pressures mounting from all sides, health, family, and work, I felt I wouldn’t be doing justice to any areas. So I made the difficult choice of quitting the bank. I also did not want the most precious days of my children growing up to be filled only with overwhelm, firefighting, and haggling with people. But I wanted it to be filled with love as I enjoyed my time with them and watch them grow. So banking had to get the boot!
Be patient and consistent
The journey does not have unicorns and rainbows but instead has a lot of doubts and second-guessing. Every day when I reached the school I had to teach in, I wanted to take a U-turn and return home. Neither the money motivated me nor the job role. But the key was to be consistent and remind myself of my why. With time, I was able to able to embrace the role and warm up to it. I began to see the good things it offered like summer holidays and other days off. I was able to use that time to recuperate and recover from the 3 years of sleepless nights which had taken a toll on me mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Find a support system
It is important to find people who understand you and support your decision and make them part of your close circle. Whereas people who make you question your decision are best kept at arm’s length or take their opinion with a pinch of salt. When I doubted my decision and wanted to quit the teaching job, my husband stood like a cheerleader and encouraged me all the way through.
Aim for smaller goalposts
Aiming for smaller goalposts, especially, in the beginning, eases the ride! In the beginning, I found it frustrating to accept the change, but thankfully for me, I had joined in the last 2 months of the school year. I had the summer holidays to look forward to and I kept reminding myself of it. I aimed at staying strong until the summer holidays before I took any impulsive decisions.
The journey to a fulfilled life is ongoing and has no final destination. You will know when it is time to shift gears again. Once my kids started their school life and I had more time in my hands, I felt it was time for me to get back to the banking field. But since I was enjoying family life thoroughly, I did not want to go back to a 9*5. So, instead, I started working for a mortgage broker 3 days a week. That decision led me first to become a mortgage advisor and subsequently a shareholder in my business. So one tiny decision changes the course of my journey.
The way forward
If you want to embark on this journey of leading a fulfilled and authentic life, take stock of what you want and don’t want in life. Once you have your roadmap in front of you, the only thing left is to take aligned action. The journey is not easy and to make the ride smooth, know your playing field, find your trade-off, be patient and consistent, have your support system close to you, aim for smaller goalposts, and review your goals periodically. I hope to see you on the other side!